Who's Your Inner child? And Why She’s Still In Charge

We hear so much about the “inner child” but almost never about the “inner teen.” Yet both play a bigger role in your life than you think. The younger you never disappeared. Whether you were six or sixteen, those younger versions still influence you as an adult today.

Your inner child is just the kid version of you that's still hanging around inside. She remembers the good and  bad experiences from when you were little. You probably had great parents, but there were still times you felt left out or like a burden. That hurt kid is still in there, holding onto all the times someone was mean to you or made you feel like you had to be perfect. She learned to keep her mouth shut to avoid more drama.

What's a Wounded Inner Child?

A wounded inner child is the part of you that got hurt when you were little and never really got over it. These wounds don't just come from dramatic moments. Most come from regular moments that felt crushing when you were young.

Your mom rolled her eyes when you got excited about something. Your dad always seemed disappointed in you. Kids at school laughed when you tried to join in. Your parents fought and you thought it was your fault. You learned that being quiet kept everyone happy, so you stopped speaking up.

When you're a kid, you can't make sense of why people treat you badly. So you create stories about yourself . I'm annoying, I mess things up all the time. That hurt kid is still believing those old stories about who you are.

Now as an adult, you apologize for taking up space, say yes when you want to say no, freeze up when someone seems upset. You work yourself to eath trying to prove you matter.

You can't change what happened when you were little, but you can change how it messes with your life now. It feels exhausting especially living your whole adult life trying to fix what that little kid decided about herself. But the good thing is you can rewrite those old stories. And it starts with;

Healing Your Inner Child

Inner child healing is about meeting that hurt kid inside you with kindness and showing her she's not alone anymore. Your adult self gets to be in charge now, not the scared child. The things that  used to control you starts losing its grip, and you can finally respond from strength instead of just trying to survive.

So where do you start?

First, figure out if your inner child needs healing. If you're not sure, check out the signs that tell you it's time. Once you know she needs help, you can check out  the 5 ways to actually heal her. Both will give you exactly what you need to start this work. If you want personalized guidance through this process as well, I'm here to help you figure out exactly what your inner child needs.