5 ways to heal your inner child
A simple 'we need to talk' text shouldn't ruin your whole day. But there you are, overthinking, imagining the worst thing that could happen. You feel like you’re about to get in trouble again .
The little girl inside is still reacting to today's problems with yesterday's fears.
Every time someone seems upset with you, and every time you feel like you’re not good enough, you want to hide because you feel less of yourself and start to avoid people.
It doesn’t have to stay like that. So today let's find out how we could break free from your fears, heal your inner child and become strong again.
Get to know your inner child
Look, your inner child is real. She's that part of you that still gets scared or hurt the same way you did when you were little. Go find some old pictures of yourself as a kid. Look at her face. That's who we're talking about and she's still in there. Try talking to her like you would any kid who needs comfort. Tell her you see her. Let her know you're finally paying attention.
Identify key events in your life
You need to find out what wounded that little girl when she was young. Take a minute and go back there in your mind. What memories make you feel sad? Did you get yelled at a lot? Did you feel like you could never do anything right? Just write it down. Whatever hurt back then is probably still hurting you now.Once you write down those painful memories, start noticing how they show up in your adult life. When you overreact to criticism or feel scared when someone's upset, that's your inner child responding to old wounds. Seeing these connections is the first step to healing them.
Speak kindly to her all the time
Start talking to that little girl like she matters. Picture her sitting next to you somewhere safe. Tell her the things she needed to hear back then. Say you're sorry she got hurt. Tell her she's good enough. Give her a hug because that little girl needs it. Write her a letter if talking out loud feels weird. Just be nice to her. She's been waiting her whole life for someone to care about how she feels.
Forgive and let go
People say this a lot, ‘’Forgive and forget’’. But the fact that you can forgive them doesn’t mean you can forget. You can’t erase the hurt, but you can loosen its hold on you.You need to forgive the people who hurt you when you were little. I'm not saying what they did was okay or that you have to be friends with them. But holding onto that anger is like drinking poison and expecting them to get sick. Forgiveness isn't for them, it's for you. Let that weight go. Your little girl deserves to be free from carrying all that heavy stuff around.
Seek professional help
This is mostly really hard to work through by yourself. If the pain is just too much, get some help. Find a coach or therapist who knows about inner child work. It's not weak to ask for help . You wouldn't try to fix your own broken arm, so why try to heal deep emotional wounds alone? Get someone in your world who can guide you through the tough parts and help you heal faster than trying to figure it all out alone.
That little girl has been waiting so long for you to notice her, to care about her pain, and finally give her what she needed all those years ago. She's been carrying those heavy feelings alone, but she doesn't have to anymore. You have the power to heal her, to make her feel safe, and worthy again.
This journey isn't always easy, but it's so worth it. Every step you take toward healing her is a step toward feeling whole again. Stop carrying all that weight around. Stop jumping to the worst conclusion every time. You can feel calm instead of anxious. You don't have to be scared of everything and you can actually feel good about yourself.
Don't try to do this alone.
Reach out for help when you need it. Find people who understand this work. Your healing matters. That little girl inside you is counting on you. She's been strong for so long now it's time for you to be strong for her.